No one chooses voluntarily for bad things to happen to them. I know I didn't. I confess to asking "Why me?" a time or twelve. But I'm a different person now than I was six years ago. I'm stronger.
I could've lived without the decimation of my core values and deterioration of my health. But will it happen again? Hell, no.
*** GAME OF THRONES SPOILER BELOW ***
HBO's Game of Thrones (GOT) took a bit of flack for Sansa Stark's comments to The Hound in Season 8, Episode 4. A lot of really horrible, disturbing things happened to the 'Sansa Stark' character. George RR Martin has taken "kill your darlings" to a whole new level. No character on GOT has survived to Season 8 unscathed.
The fact is bad things happen. Even downright heinous and unspeakable things happen. But the key is not to accept it. When we accept that fill-in-the-blank "happens everywhere," something truly revolting happens. Tolerance. Condonement. Indifference.
Continue to be shocked by the bad things. The alternative is worse.